Saturday, May 06, 2006

Why should men marry and have a family?

This is my first post on Why Family and it's focused on the name of our blog.

"Why family?" is a question people ask today in a way they never did before. Social scientists have observed that while single men have been asking "Who should I marry?" and "When should I marry?" for some time, it's fairly new for them to add the question, "Why marry?" and then if marriage occurs to ask "Why have children?"

"The unexamined life is not worth living," said Socrates and a growing number of singles are taking that truth to heart in regard to a path their parents and grandparents followed without much thought. Some skeptics encourage deep reflection prior to marriage as a way to avoid divorce. They ask singles to pause and take a rational look at marriage before riding the crest of infatuation into a potentially bad thing. Other skeptics question the whole institution of marriage in a day when many of the benefits of matrimony are increasingly available to guys without a formal commitment. In that light, they ask, "Why take on the headaches, the costs, the risks and responsibilities of marriage?" "Why lose my freedom?" "Why limit my options by committing to one person?"

Some guys concede that marriage is worth those tradeoffs but reserve greater skepticism about having children. Why not just enjoy a childless marriage? I get the sense that guys asking these questions are finding better reasons not to marry or have children than they are reasons to go for it. I'm afraid that our churches and friends in the faith community are failing us on this subject as well--with few prepared to provide a Biblical vision for family in the midst of our skeptical culture.

How would you answer the question, "Why family?"

In my next few posts, I'll offer up four different reasons.


At 3:25 PM, Blogger Elena said...

Good on ya, Steve! Glad you've started a series on this topic. Am looking forward to reading it.

Question: Is that a wedding pic of you and Candice or a "close facsimile" couple?


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