Tuesday, February 07, 2006

A Good Mate from A-Z


When last I wrote, I was responding to a reader who wanted to know how to apply the Bible's wisdom on dating in a practical, everyday way. In an effort to answer her honestly and thoroughly, I started doing a little research and discovered something that many of you probably already know. Not sure how I missed this: Proverbs 31 was written as an acrostic. Each verse starting with verse 10 (the "Wife of Noble Character" section) begins with a successive letter of the Hebrew alphabet. It's the A-Z for what makes a good wife. In modern parlance, that's the checklist for marrying well; the "what to look for when you're looking for a wife."

In an effort to make it practical, I've written my own version. An English A-Z checklist. One for men, one for women.

If you're a man, ask yourself, is this woman I'm dating:

A -- Aware; of the big picture, of the world around her
B -- a Believer
C -- open to having Children
D -- Dignified
E -- Excellent in her pursuits
F -- Full of Faith
G -- Gracious
H -- Honorable
I -- Inventive
J -- Just
K -- Kind
L -- Loving
M -- Modest
N -- Noble
O -- Obedient to the authority in her life
P -- Pure
Q -- capable of being Quiet
R -- Resourceful
S -- Skilled, Stable
T -- Trustworthy
U -- Under Authority
V -- Victorious
W -- a Worshipper
X -- still thinking of something for this one
Y -- Yearning for God
Z -- full of Zoe "life of God"

15 Comments:

At 9:06 AM, Blogger Tuesday's Child said...

I love this list Candice, I'm going to show it to my friends when I get the chance. I like the idea too of this being not just a list of things a guy should want in a girl, but a list of things that God desires her to have, and that I should desire myself. (This is Sarah by the way)

 
At 2:18 PM, Blogger Suzanne said...

This acrostic is great. I printed it out to hang on my mirror at home!

 
At 10:27 AM, Blogger Tuesday's Child said...

We girls all make lists of what our perfect guy looks like, now we have one for becoming a woman to complete him. Great list! (You should write a book on this concept and these qualities Candice, and by the way, this is Sarah) I especially loved that the whole list ended in the Zoe of God. Beautiful.

 
At 1:20 PM, Blogger Amy said...

How 'bout for "X": x-celling?

 
At 1:20 PM, Blogger Amy said...

How 'bout for "X": x-celling?

 
At 1:33 PM, Blogger Hero's Cousin said...

I just found this blog...thanks for doing this! I read your articles on Boundless and am thrilled to find another of your outlets. I will print this list out as well, it's incredibly challenging, in a very good way. :)

 
At 1:52 PM, Blogger tiesha said...

I just happened upon this list through Boundless and I love it!! It is so hard sometimes to define what it is I need to be working on in my own life to ensure I will make a good partner for someone one day. I know that all of these traits are never mastered but continually nurtured through prayer and willed action. Thank you for sharing such a practical way to apply Proverbs 31 to my life.

 
At 6:26 PM, Blogger Amy said...

A list of thing that describe what I haven't been able to put into words. The things I want to achieve in my own life so that I'm not repeating the mistakes of my parents.

 
At 6:28 PM, Blogger Amy said...

Finally, someone managed to put to words what I had yet to be able to do. Qualities I try and work on in order to be the person I desire to become.

 
At 5:41 AM, Blogger JRB said...

Great post. For x, xenos might work. It means stranger or foreigner in Greek (we get xenophobia from it). In Hebrews we are called to be "strangers and pilgrims in this earth."

 
At 5:42 AM, Blogger JRB said...

Great post. For x, xenos might work. It means stranger or foreigner in Greek (we get xenophobia from it). In Hebrews we are called to be "strangers and pilgrims in this earth."

 
At 6:39 AM, Blogger Beng said...

I'm a blogger from the Philippines who stumbled to this site through the boundless.org website. Great A-Z list. The question is how will we be 26/26! Thanks for ministering to singles like me! :-)

 
At 4:15 PM, Blogger Alaberi said...

why does a godly woman have to be open to having children (see your "C")? Isn't a marriage where procreation is not an object still valid if it is God-centered?

 
At 12:41 AM, Blogger Nate said...

jrb said exactly what i was thinking. ;)

 
At 2:57 PM, Blogger aggierudy3 said...

Great list! For x you could use xenial - pertaining to hospitality or relations with friendly visitors.

 

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