Thursday, March 09, 2006

I Dare You

To Elena who said she hasn't yet read Maken's book, Getting Serious About Getting Married, I can only say: READ IT! This is a book that will get you thinking in a whole new direction. It's worth your time and effort.

What's most different about Debbie's book is that unlike so many others (even one or two of the books mentioned in Elena's comment), Getting Serious is steeped in Scripture and historical evidence. It is biblical. It is bold. In some cases shocking. Even now I'm finishing up an article for Boundless about the pros and cons of moving out of your family's home prior to getting married. Honestly, I would not have written this article last week. But this book has me rethinking my assumptions. Ironically, the things I find hardest to swallow seem to be the most logical, researched and biblically grounded.

I'm glad to be learning just how much of the cultural air I've inhaled. Just how much of the status quo I've swallowed. I'd love to hear from readers who take the challenge: Read the book and let me know what you think. It's a bargain, really. For only 10 bucks, you may be set on a new path toward the very thing you've long desired. If I could offer a money back guarantee I would. I don't think you'll be disappointed.


At 7:49 AM, Blogger Elena said...


Didn't say I wouldn't...just that I haven't yet. I'll read it, and I'll post something on my blog about it.

At 5:57 AM, Blogger Elizabeth said...

I read the book and I liked it. The only thing I would say is that I would give more credit to God's hand in my life than she seems to give Him.

At 2:06 AM, Blogger dabears27 said...

all I can say is that you can't spell SINGLE without SIN. Also, there is no SIN in MARRIED or MARRIAGE.

At 1:43 AM, Blogger Jackie said...

I finally read the book. I appreciated her historical analysis of church doctrine on marriage, and wonder why the church has gone so far off the path, today. Every time I tell a woman about this book, however, they say exactly what Debbie says they will--assuming that because I'm reading the book I'm desperate for a spouse. Nope. Now I'm just excited to see how God will fulfill his promises.

At 9:59 AM, Blogger Elena said...

Candice, I bought Getting Serious About Getting Married last night; and I read the Intro and Chapter 1 and immediately called my best friend. We decided that the "waving the white hanky" of agreement was an inadequate metaphor for the feelings we had over Debbie Maken's message—it was time to bring out the entire marching band and let them do their halftime show, we're SO in agreement with Debbie. *does a little bouncy office chair dance*

I think I'm going to do a chapter by chapter review of this book over at my blog. Y'all come read if ya like!

Jackie, I LOVE this sentence from your comment above: "Now I'm just excited to see how God will fulfill his promises." That's how I've been thinking and feeling of late, and I feel as if Debbie Maken's book has given me permission to admit this aloud. ---> I want to marry a wonderful Christian man and be his helper as we build a life and a Christ-honoring legacy together. This isn't about beind desperate—this is about embracing the design of who God created me to be, about trusting Him, and about being willing to take the biblical female's place in God's plans for His people. Amen, hallelujah, and pass the fried chicken!!

At 10:06 AM, Blogger Elena said...

Urm, dabears27, your argument of "you can't spell SINGLE without SIN. Also, there is no SIN in MARRIED or MARRIAGE" is rather specious. There are numerous words in the English language with the letters "s-i-n" in them, in that order; and that fact does not mean they are sinful thoughts, speech, or actions. You're stretching your theology. No human but Jesus has ever been perfectly sinless, so neither marital state—marriage or singleness—will prevent one from sinning at all. (No, I'm not advocating singleness as a "lifestyle choice." I do believe that it must be a true calling from God...that in order to serve Him in a special way to which He calls the particular person, the pattern of that person's life will preclude marriage.) Humans face temptations to sin—temptations of all shapes, sizes, and intensities—whether they are married or single. What prevents us from committing sins is the work of the Holy Spirit...and our obedience to Him.

At 7:34 AM, Blogger dabears27 said...

Elena, I was trying to be funny. Clearly, I failed.

At 4:44 PM, Blogger Elena said...

Doh! Sorry, there... I did see the humor in it, but there are folks who like to take some of these off-the-cuff remarks and build an entire theology out of them.

Good to know that you weren't being serious! :o)


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